Rule-9 for changing life...

 

               " Rule No. 09 for Changing Life "Pause Before Promises: Don't Decide in Extremes"

                               Don't promise in happiness and don't take decisions in sadness

"Never Promise in Happiness, Never Decide in Sadness: Life’s Lesson” Discover why one should never make a vow when he is joyful and never make a decision when he is sad. This life lesson is steeped on a healthy emotional perspective when making commitment based decisions and is another successful tool in aiding choice-making. Get happiness by accepting the fact that the feeling aspects have major influence over your life events.”

"Happiness Can Cloud Better Judgement"

Happy people are always considered vulnerable since they overcommit especially when extremely happy. The promises made at such a time may not be very reasonable because you see everything through ‘rose-tinted’ glasses. Your perception is thus affected, and you are likely to over-estimate on what you are capable of as well as willing to do. This just shows how much we need to have our emotional integrity in check when it comes to promises or choices. Sometimes in conditions of tremendous happiness we can promise something that it will be impossible to deliver cause happiness distorts our judgement. Some of these promises may at some point result in regrets or unfulfilled expectations after sobering up from passion. The premise is in overstretch yourself and assuming that you can accomplish that, which you really can, in the relative comfort of the present high. This can lead to some conflict within relationships, can bring distrust and can cause unnecessary stress. This must be followed by the proper thinking before leaping making, especially where promises are liable to be made and which may prejudice the performance of the duties that the party is bound to carry out effectively. Spending some time to know your productive range and your willingness level can help you avoid some disappointments. If you invest time into understanding your emotions better and gaining control over them, you are much more likely to make decision that are consciously sound and reflect your value system, meaning you are less likely to regret them.

"The Danger of Deciding in Despair"

Likwise, making decisions during feeling of sadness or distress can result in choices motivated by negativity, desperation, or just plain old fear. In such states, we may fail to see other more feasible options, make hasty decisions or choose things we would never do if in our right frame of mind. This is perhaps because when we get to the point where we are driven by our emotions we are not able to have an overall view of things and find ourselves making decisions that we do not want to be making. Most of them stem from a need to avoid discomfort or to solve a problem at one particular moment and are usually followed by regret and all sorts of unexpected outcomes in the future. It is in this context that the danger is in responding to the fleeting feelings, not the steady thinking through of the general situation. This underscores the fact that in order to make or commit one self into crucial decisions in life, one has to be well compounded. Actually observing this phenomenon is whenever one feels the need to act or take a decision, the person takes some time off and cools down so that they do not take a wrong decision, a wrong blow, or go the wrong way. Emotional intelligence is all encompassing and plays a significant role in achieving a happier and content life since issues of emotions, and values are interrelated in determination of the appropriate ways to go about life.

 

“Why Sadness Hurts Your Ability to Think Clearly

Decision making in the state of sadness is just as challenging. Basically when you are depressed then your thinking directs to worst case scenario in any situation. This leads to poor decision-making processes- with decisions arising out of pessimism, fear or desperation. In such emotions states we are drawn to negative worst possible outcome, which makes it difficult to look at the challenges objectively or to consider a broad range of solutions. This is because we may decide we don’t want anything to do with such a person or opportunity when the reverse could be very fruitful. Hence, momentary feeling of sadness distorts perception and makes us do something based on feelings we have at that one moment rather than the long term effects of the decision. For instance, when such emotions as anger, sadness, or frustration engulf a person, they may decide to leave a job, or end a relationship, only to find out that they made the wrong decision when rational emotions subside. The major value, therefore, is to create time for one to get emotionally stable before taking important decisions that may have far reaching eeeeeects. Taking a breather, one can recall what he/she really wants, or else they form decisions that are based in passion and the current state of feeling. Knowing just how far sadness can reach and influence that portion of your mind can allow you to make wiser decisions in every aspect of life.

 

‘Mastering emotional clarity for better decisions.’

Try to make more promises and decisions in the moment when are not angry, or stressed out. It doesn’t mean you don’t consider the emotions, rather, look at times when emotions would bias your decision-making process. It is often appropriate to make impulsive decisions when emotions are involved especially when they are extreme because such decisions are likely to be productive of the ideal wishes and goals. And finally, emotional awareness practiced here gives you time to step back and think about what you feel before you actually act on the feelings. This makes you understand what’s coming from your hearts and what is right for that matter. Before making a decision to invest, that is to make any significant move one has to wait for clear indications that their moves are well thought through, achievable and are the right move of their personality. It helps to avoid empty-headed shifts in related decisions and being able to make more appropriate solutions which ensure further progress. It can help in building relationships since people will likely value you for you for being patient and able to think clearly at the time of stress. And so, one’s emotions do not only lead to more effective thinking but also the person is comfortable in his/her skin, the conscious of his/her actions is clear. This in turn results in more stable relationship as well as the achievement of a more fulfilling life.

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